by Sara Gross

By the third day of the Outspoken Summit the event had a life of its own. I felt a shift in the power dynamic. At first the Summit felt like it belonged to Lisa and I and our handful of fabulous helpers, but two days later, I had the distinct sense that it belonged to “us.” To everyone there. To the collective.

On Friday evening, the 101 women and 4 men in the room were our guests and by Sunday afternoon, I felt like I was their guest.  And frankly, shouldn’t every conference feel like that? This will be my goal every year.

Tempe Town Lake at sunset


Here are a few things I learned from the incredible group of people who gathered in Tempe last weekend:

1. Be a “Thanker.”

Over the course of the weekend dozens of people approached me to say “Thank You” and tell me how much they were enjoying the Summit. As an organizer, I can tell you that nine times out of ten, I’m smiling on the outside but on the inside I’m thinking, “OMG DID EVERYONE GET ENOUGH FOOD???” or “ARE THEY FREEZING THEIR BUTTS OFF OUT HERE?? (Arizona- you’re supposed to be warm – WTF??)” And when a friendly face is in front of me telling me how grateful they are, my heart swells. Be that person.

2. Bring your “A Game.”

This was a first year event, people must have been unsure… “Can they pull it off?” Heck, I didn’t know if we could pull it off. And yet, every single presenter and speaker brought their “A Game.” Do Kyrsten Sinema, Meredith Kessler and Julie Moss have bigger fish to fry? Of course they do. But they all showed up, fully present and engaged. Always bring your best self to every task.

The IronWomen LIVE team-Jessica Cooper and Ashley Wiles

3. Laugh at yourself.

Ashley Wiles, presenter of the IronWomen LIVE videos did 10 interviews on Saturday. On Sunday morning… I won’t mince my words here… she looked like sh*t. Tired. Bags under eyes. Bed head. The. Works. But with Julie Moss on tap, the show must go on, so she took the mic. On the second question while live on camera, she stumbled, stumbled again, didn’t know what to say and then just spouted out, “Julie- you talk.” And like the champ she is, Julie jumped in with a story while Ashley composed herself enough to move forward with the interview.

Sunday evening, post-Summit, Ashley says to me “Did you see my interview with Julie Moss?” So we watched it. And we laughed. And then we rewound and laughed again – belly holding, face hurting, laughter. It’s so important to laugh at your mistakes. Ashley is a pro at this. Laugh at yourself.

4. Take punches with grace.

I invited Diana Bertsch, VP of World Championship events at IronMan, to be on the “Where Are We Now” panel and then watched as she absorbed hard questions, took a couple straight up punches and even dodged a few during the questions round. I talked to Diana after and she was nothing but gracious and understanding. She knew going in she might get some hard questions and yet kept perspective on the Summit as a whole, saw the good energy and momentum that was being created and took the good with the bad. I hope to be equally gracious when it’s my turn to take a few hits. Take punches as an opportunity to learn.

“Where Are We Now?” Rachel Joyce, Sika Henry and Diana Bertsch with moderator Erin Beresini

5. Ask hard questions

We knew going into the weekend that there would be moments of discomfort and that not everyone would agree on everything all the time. To make change we need to be willing to be uncomfortable. I was impressed by the people who asked the tough questions (see #4 above) and were willing to sit in that discomfort for a moment. I was impressed by trans athlete Erin Hamilton, who was willing to speak up even when I know she struggles with the sound of her own voice. Be Feisty.

6. Leave your ego at the door.

As an organizer, I felt apologetic about asking so many talented women to support us by speaking or presenting. I was acutely aware that many of our panelists and workshop presenters could have been keynote speakers. I didn’t want to dent any egos by asking them to do a “lesser” task. Turns out, I was the only one thinking about egos. Each and every one of these amazing presenters came without ego and graciously brought their “A Game” to the task. Never let your ego stop you from embracing an opportunity.

“The Future of Triathlon” panel- Gabriela Gallegos, Jamila Gale-Agans & Kelly O’Mara with moderator Victoria Brumfield

7. Stay on task.

I had two teams working at the Summit. One was our Summit team – Lisa, Alicia, Glenda and myself, and the IronWomen LIVE video team – Ashley and Jessica. We each have different strengths and were given tasks accordingly. The Summit went off smoothly without a hitch (or, with only minor hitches) because everyone stayed on task, did what was expected of them (and more!) and played the role they needed to play for three days. Do these women have other talents that aren’t being expressed while they are dutifully stacking chairs or being a human tripod? Yes. (see #6 about egos). But they stayed in their designated lane for three days. Always stay the course.

8. Vulnerability is empowering.

We had some powerful moments throughout the weekend because so many presenters were willing to be vulnerable. Meredith Kessler set the tone on Friday by talking about embracing failure. Julie Moss had us wiping watery eyes on Saturday morning and Stacy Sims opened up about her struggles with mental health. Meredith Atwood. Stacy Perlis. Rachel McBride. Each of these women were vulnerable in their own ways. And there were no doubt more that I didn’t witness, in presentations and private conversations. It takes a strong person to be vulnerable.  Be that person.

Lisa and I on the first night of the Summit.

When we travel to Ironman events to do LIVE video coverage, Ashley and I do our “Loves and Learns” at the end of each day. This is a tradition that she started and I embraced. There are many loves and learns that I have been scribbling in my notebook, dictating to my phone or typing on my computer since the Summit ended and I hope to continue this tradition every day. Today. Tomorrow. All of the days.

Thanks to everyone who supported the Summit in every way, big or small. I love you. Here’s to being Outspoken in 2019.

27 Responses

  1. blog here

    I just want to say I am new to blogging and site-building and definitely liked your page. Probably I’m want to bookmark your site . You absolutely come with excellent posts. Many thanks for revealing your website page.

  2. John Deere Diagnostic and Test Manuals

    I would like to show my thanks to this writer just for rescuing me from such a incident. After browsing throughout the world-wide-web and seeing principles which were not beneficial, I thought my entire life was done. Existing without the approaches to the issues you have solved through your entire guideline is a serious case, and those that would have adversely damaged my career if I hadn’t noticed your site. The expertise and kindness in handling all the details was useful. I’m not sure what I would’ve done if I hadn’t discovered such a point like this. I can also at this time look ahead to my future. Thanks a lot very much for your reliable and effective guide. I won’t think twice to refer your blog post to anyone who would need support about this matter.

  3. eebest8 michael

    “I really appreciate this post. I’ve been looking everywhere for this! Thank goodness I found it on Bing. You have made my day! Thx again!”

  4. Top Down Bottom Up Shade Store

    I like the helpful information you provide in your articles. I’ll bookmark your weblog and check again here regularly. I’m quite sure I will learn plenty of new stuff right here! Good luck for the next!

  5. Patrice Coskey

    Can I recently say what a relief to locate someone who really knows what theyre discussing on the internet. You actually understand how to bring a worry to light and make it critical. More and more people must look at this and understand this side with the story. I cant think youre not more well-known since you also certainly provide the gift.

  6. Fidelia Killmer

    Thanks for the auspicious writeup. It in truth was a leisure account it. Look complex to more added agreeable from you! By the way, how could we keep up a correspondence?

  7. Kyoko Piercy

    Hello, you used to write fantastic articles, but the last several posts have been kinda lackluster… I miss your super posts. Past few posts are just a little bit out of track!

  8. Barton Greenhaw

    You produced some decent points there. I looked on the internet for that problem and discovered most individuals is going as well as together with your internet site.

  9. Sidney Yoneda

    I have noticed that over the course of developing a relationship with real estate homeowners, you’ll be able to get them to understand that, in every single real estate transaction, a commission is paid. In the long run, FSBO sellers will not “save” the commission. Rather, they fight to win the commission by means of doing a great agent’s job. In completing this task, they invest their money along with time to conduct, as best they will, the assignments of an broker. Those duties include getting known the home by means of marketing, representing the home to all buyers, constructing a sense of buyer desperation in order to prompt an offer, making arrangement for home inspections, taking on qualification checks with the loan company, supervising fixes, and aiding the closing of the deal.

  10. Jarod Harvell

    I image this might be various upon the written content material? then again I still believe that it may be appropriate for nearly any form of subject subject matter, because it will continuously be gratifying to resolve a heat and delightful face or possibly pay attention a voice whilst preliminary landing.

  11. Raul Howell

    I have not checked in here for a while as I thought it was getting boring, but the last few posts are really good quality so I guess I will add you back to my daily bloglist. You deserve it my friend.

  12. their website

    I simply hope to share it with you that I am new to putting up a blog and completely valued your information. Most likely I am probably to save your blog post . You indeed have magnificent article blog posts. Like it for expressing with us your own website write-up

  13. Bernice Kupchinsky

    You have made quality elements in that respect there. Used to do a search on the subject issue and located most of us is going to agree to on your web site. My family and I already went through a your site and even seek out your posts.

  14. check out this site

    Might be near impossible to encounter well-advised visitors on this issue, even though you appear like you know those things you’re writing on! Bless You

  15. Faytech North America

    Faytech North America is a touch screen Manufacturer of both monitors and pcs. They specialize in the design, development, manufacturing and marketing of Capacitive touch screen, Resistive touch screen, Industrial touch screen, IP65 touch screen, touchscreen monitors and integrated touchscreen PCs. Contact them at, 121 Varick Street, New York, NY 10013, +1 646 205 3214

  16. Check out Sapid Agency

    Emery EPS is a Search Engine Optimization company that provides SEO Services. Their proprietary SEO strategies help struggling websites and aspiring business owners to rank their websites higher in multiple search engines like Google , Yahoo and Bing. They provide local and gmb map ranking for businesses in Coasta Rica, New York, Los Angeles, Portland, Sacramento, Phoenix, Las Vegas, Denver, Houston, California and many other local areas. Find more at


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.